I‘m not one of those who can chop parsley and put a last-minute singe on the steak while simultaneously greeting guests. I try to get party preparations done in advance to avoid last-minute fussing. Once I’ve done what I can and guests start to arrive, I surrender to the will of the occasion, to its […]
Ellen Waterston
Poet and author Ellen Waterston, named Oregon's Poet Laureate in 2024, is a woman of a certain age who resides in Bend. "The Third Act" is a series of columns on ageing and ageism.
The Third Act: A Column on Ageism and Ageing
Off on an early morning hike, a girlfriend and I encounter three younger friends of mine on the trail. Based on a lifetime of evidence I knew my nervous anticipation of a four-way introduction was the guarantee I’d forget a name. So, I defaulted to a brief if awkward hello to the threesome, and my […]
The Third Act: A Column on Ageism and Ageing
Off on an early morning hike, a girlfriend and I encounter three younger friends of mine on the trail. Based on a lifetime of evidence I knew my nervous anticipation of a four-way introduction was the guarantee I’d forget a name. So, I defaulted to a brief if awkward hello to the threesome, and my […]
The Third Act: A Column on Ageism and Ageing
This month, as it has for the past 36 years, the Summer Fishtrap Gathering in Joseph, Oregon, assembled a faculty of notable writers who offered a week’s worth of genre-specific workshops for registered participants. The authors also anchored evening readings and panel discussions open to the public. The year 2023’s impressive lineup included Craig Childs, […]
The Third Act: A Column on Ageism and Ageing
When I was six or so, my grandmother, who lived with us, would entertain me by pinching the skin on the back of her 80-year-old hand and then, letting it go, telling me to count slowly until her skin lay perfectly flat again, like a wave slowly reabsorbed by the sea. I easily counted to […]
The Third Act
Thanks to lots of snow and rain, our rivers are singing happy, highwater songs. It’s rafting season! Get out your kayaks and Catarafts! The last few years I’ve been invited to join five other women on a self-supported raft trip. Ten years older than my raft-mates, I relish the chance to (try to) match their […]
The Third Act: A Column on Ageism and Ageing
April can be a trickster. This year I’ve been April’s fool, falling for the here and there glimpses of sun. On a recent rare day of warmer temperatures, I pruned and raked and fertilized until dark, certain the drear and cold was over, that spring was finally here. I bet I wasn’t alone. One brief […]
Chat Me Up
Us older folks are known for relying on our children or their children’s children to work out computer and cell phone issues, to teach us how to use the remote, to program this and download that, to interface smart watches with smart phones (thank you, Dick Tracy). With some notable exceptions, and I am decidedly […]
The Third Act: CREDO
So, New Year’s resolutions. Not a bad thing in concept. Despite their short shelf life, they do momentarily return us to better living habits, bring our attention to neglected goals: committing to a dreamed-of trip, more visits to the gym, eating more veggies, volunteering at Family Kitchen. Like most such lists they are often more […]
The Third Act: A Column on Ageism and Ageing
For all the commercial hype of merry and happy, and as all sizes and shapes of “family” try to wriggle into the cultural one-size that’s supposed to fit all, for many members of the over-the-hill gang Yuletide can turn out to be more mono than mรฉnage. For a variety of reasons (treacherous travel, illness, family […]

