ARIES (March 21-April 19): “I not only bow to the inevitable,” wrote Aries author Thornton Wilder. “I am fortified by it.” Wow. That was a brazen declaration. Did he sincerely mean it? He declared that he grew stronger through surrender, that he derived energy by willingly giving in to the epic trends of his destiny. […]
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Dense Like Nobody’s Watching
I read your column about why women apologize more than men, and the science makes sense. What you didn’t address is why men don’t admit they’re wrong or apologize. So while women operate according to the survival instincts you described, men oafishly bumble through life without a clue they screwed up and owe someone an […]
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A Long Way from Lupercalia
Ellen Waterston’s column on ageism and ageing is back with a special Valentine’s Day edition
If you think the history of Valentine’s Day is all about cupids, roses and chocolates, think again. Though the origins are obscure, what is known is they had more to do with bacchanals and blood. Blame it on the ancient Romans, who, for centuries, annually celebrated the fertility festival of Lupercalia on Feb. 14. Randy […]
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Free Will Astrology—Week of February 10
Real love is a pilgrimage
ARIES (March 21-April 19): “Real love is a pilgrimage,” declared author Anita Brookner. “It happens when there is no strategy, but it is very rare because most people are strategists.” That’s the bad news, Aries. The good news is that you have more potential than ever before to free your love of strategic maneuvering and […]
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Silence Of The Ma’ams
Silence Of The Ma’ams My girlfriends and I were out for drinks. One was talking about her bad day at work and how she found herself apologizing to her boss (though she wasn’t at fault). The conversation turned to how women are constantly saying “I’m sorry” to everyone: boyfriends, parents, strangers at the supermarket. I […]
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How Do I Shove Thee?, Pouter Struggle
You can’t hold two thoughts in mind or say two things at once
How Do I Shove Thee? I‘m a 31-year-old gay man. I have these intrusive lusty thoughts about my ex, like daily. I’m extremely physically attracted to him, but we just don’t work as a couple and never will. Despite knowing this, I’m having a hard time stopping myself from thinking about him. It’s more of […]
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Free Will Astrology—Week of February 3
I suspect you’ll encounter some of the most amusing and entertaining outbreaks of divine intervention ever
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): “All things are inventions of holiness,” wrote poet Mary Oliver. “Some more rascally than others.” I agree. And I’ll add that in the coming weeks, holiness is likely to be especially rascally as it crafts its inventions in your vicinity. Here are the shades of my meaning for the word “rascally”: […]
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Matt Wuerker—Week of February 3
Of course the Senate will abide by the McConnell Rule
