Columns

Dear Dr. Jane, I’m a 35-year-old guy who’s been trying to date in Bend — which as you likely know isn’t an easy task. Lately I’ve been seeing a new woman who I met on one of the apps. It’s gone a whole lot better than any connection I’ve had dating here in the past. […]

ARIES (March 21-April 19): Now is a favorable time to make initial inquiries, ask for free samples, and enjoy window shopping. But it’s not an opportune time to seal final decisions or sign binding contracts. Have fun haggling and exploring, even as you avoid making permanent promises. Follow the inklings of your heart more than […]

Opportunities to choose to do life righter, brighter and better are available to us every day, all day long. Even when we don’t feel like it. Pretty cool, eh? I am assuming you know the last two words of this wise old lesson, “Fake it till you make it.” I learned it a long time […]

ARIES (March 21-April 19): Aries author Eric G. Wilson claims, “Darker emotional states—doubt, confusion, alienation, despair—inspire a deeper and more durable experience of the sacred than contentment does.” I disagree. I know for a fact that an exquisite embrace of life’s holiness is equally possible through luminous joy and boisterous triumph and exultant breakthroughs. Propagandists […]

Happy Daylight Saving Time! Sorry to say, no time has actually been saved, just shifted. We lose an hour in March to “spring forward” by adding daylight to the evening and gain an hour or “fall back” in November by adding daylight to the morning. Make sense? Not to me. But apparently it did to […]

ARIES (March 21-April 19): In the coming days, your hunger will be so inexhaustible that you may feel driven to devour extravagant amounts of food and drink. It’s possible you will gain ten pounds in a very short time. Who Knows? You might even enter an extreme eating contest and devour 46 dozen oysters in […]

Thanks to the fact that our planet is tilted on its axis, we experience the changing of the seasons as we make our annual trip around the sun. With this comes the continual cycling of available sunlight. Having just passed through the vernal (spring) equinox, we have made the transition toward daylight hours becoming longer […]

ARIES (March 21-April 19): I suspect you will soon have far more beginners’ luck than you ever thought possible. For best results—to generate even more wildly abundant torrents of good luck—you could adopt what Zen Buddhists called “beginner’s mind.” That means gazing upon everyone and everything as if encountering it for the first time. Here […]

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): My Piscean friend Jeff Greenwald wrote the humorous but serious book *Shopping for Buddhas*. It’s the story of his adventures in Nepal as he traveled in quest of a statue to serve as a potent symbol for his spiritual yearning. I’m reminded of his search as I ruminate on your near […]

Dear Dr. Jane I’m in love with my wife. We’ve been together for over 11 years, are best friends and have two great kids. The problem is that when we’re home and the kids are anywhere near us — even in their rooms on the other side of the house — she won’t have anything […]