Dr. Jane Guyn

Dear Dr. Jane, I’m a regular reader and really appreciate your advice. I’ve noticed that many people who write in are married or in long-term relationships struggling to communicate about intimacy — and your guidance on talking openly and compassionately really resonates with me. But my situation is a little different. I’m a 42-year-old woman […]

Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I have been married for almost 25 years. Our youngest is graduating high school in June and heading to the dorms. We love each other very much and have a nice connection, but we’re hoping to spice things up a little. We aren’t into anything like swinging or threesomes. […]

Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I have been married for close to 10 years, together for 15. In general, we get along really well, but sex is almost non-existent at this point. I can count on one hand the number of times we were intimate in 2025. When we first met, we were both incredibly […]

Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I are trying to improve our relationship and we’re seeing a couples counselor to help with communication. The sessions are challenging—we fight a lot. Of course, our fighting isn’t just about everyday stuff. We fight about intimacy too, which means we almost never connect. There’s so much conflict. I […]

Dear Dr. Jane, My partner and I have a great relationship in almost every aspect. Me (m 32) her (f 30) no kids, 2 rescue pups. Together 5 years. Not married but we live together with a chill guy roommate. Unfortunately, intimacy (the physical kind) has been a challenge for years. We try to talk […]

Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I are having trouble with intimacy. I use foreplay, but she’s still distant and even rejecting. What am I doing wrong? I thought that this stuff was supposed to work. From, Foreplay Failure in Bend Dear Foreplay Failure, Everywhere you look there’s another article or tik tok about how […]

Dear Dr. Jane, I’m married and I love my wife. We get along pretty well and we’re intimate twice a week. My problem is that I’m completely bored with it all. There’s no spice — no passion. It always starts with a little bit of kissing, or she just asks me outright if I want […]

Dear Dr. Jane, I don’t think I can handle this anymore. I adore my wife.. I want to touch her all the time. Unfortunately, it seems like our relationship isn’t a priority to her. She doesn’t seem interested in me. I’m not going to cheat on my wife. I made a solemn vow on our […]

Dear Dr. Jane, I am having some problems in my marriage. We’ve been married for about 10 years and have two busy kids. The problem is intimacy. Even though we have sex a couple of times a month, my husband is really unhappy about it. He says that he doesn’t think we’re ever actually intimate, […]

Dear Dr. Jane,My wife and I have been married for 40 years. The kids are grown. We’re both retired and it’s going pretty well money wise. Our health isn’t bad — could be better, but overall, we’re grateful. We don’t sleep together anymore — mostly because she’s a light sleeper and I snore. Sex is […]