Dear Dr. Jane, I’m married and I love my wife. We get along pretty well and we’re intimate twice a week. My problem is that I’m completely bored with it all. There’s no spice — no passion. It always starts with a little bit of kissing, or she just asks me outright if I want […]
Dr. Jane Guyn
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My Wife Doesn’t Seem Interested
Advice about how to slow down and meet the needs of your partner
Dear Dr. Jane, I don’t think I can handle this anymore. I adore my wife.. I want to touch her all the time. Unfortunately, it seems like our relationship isn’t a priority to her. She doesn’t seem interested in me. I’m not going to cheat on my wife. I made a solemn vow on our […]
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Intimacy in Marriage
Sex doesn’t always mean intimacy
Dear Dr. Jane, I am having some problems in my marriage. We’ve been married for about 10 years and have two busy kids. The problem is intimacy. Even though we have sex a couple of times a month, my husband is really unhappy about it. He says that he doesn’t think we’re ever actually intimate, […]
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How Old is Too Old?
You’re never too old for intimacy
Dear Dr. Jane,My wife and I have been married for 40 years. The kids are grown. We’re both retired and it’s going pretty well money wise. Our health isn’t bad — could be better, but overall, we’re grateful. We don’t sleep together anymore — mostly because she’s a light sleeper and I snore. Sex is […]
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Understanding Intimacy
Sexual Frequency
My husband is always on me to have more sex. We’re in our 40’s and have two kids in elementary school. Right now, we do it 4 or 5 times a month – sometimes more. Is that OK? —Is That Enough? Dear Is That Enough, The question of sexual frequency is one that comes up […]
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Understanding Intimacy: A column that fosters deeper love between couples
Proud and Frustrated
I’m a 26-year-old woman who’s in a relationship with another woman. She’s been my girlfriend for 4+ years. Right now, she’s in grad school and I’m working full time – mostly from home. Our relationship started out with lots of passion, but these days it’s hard for us to connect physically. It seems like we’re […]
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Understanding Intimacy
A column that fosters deeper love between couples
Dear Dr. Jane, My husband and I have some minor communication problems, but overall we get along pretty well. Last summer, we started couples’ counselling because I discovered that he was secretly watching porn. My sister said that it wasn’t a big deal, but it feels terrible to me. We have a pretty good sex […]
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Frustrated Wife in Bend
How to deal with low libido in men
I’m married to a great guy. We’re both late 40s, no kids, both working good jobs, both in shape and financially secure. We get along well in almost every area except the bedroom. I love any kind of affection, touch or intimacy. My husband says that he loves me but he never wants to have […]
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Understanding Intimacy
Is she “withholding sex” or just taking good care of herself?
Dear Dr. Jane, I love my boyfriend but we have problems in the bedroom. We met in college and have lived together since graduation in 2020. We love each other and get along great. The problem is that when we fight, I don’t feel like having sex. Every time this happens, he accuses me of […]
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Understanding Intimacy: Hopeful Husband on Valentine’s Day
How to create the perfect Valentine’s Day date
Dear Dr. Jane, I love my wife. She’s amazing. Our love life is pretty good, but I’m really bad at showing her how much I love her on Valentine’s Day. The other day, I heard her talking to her best friend about it. She was putting me down a little bit. This Valentine’s Day, I […]
