Dear Dr. Jane, My husband and I have some minor communication problems, but overall we get along pretty well. Last summer, we started couples’ counselling because I discovered that he was secretly watching porn. My sister said that it wasn’t a big deal, but it feels terrible to me. We have a pretty good sex […]
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Frustrated Wife in Bend
How to deal with low libido in men
I’m married to a great guy. We’re both late 40s, no kids, both working good jobs, both in shape and financially secure. We get along well in almost every area except the bedroom. I love any kind of affection, touch or intimacy. My husband says that he loves me but he never wants to have […]
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Understanding Intimacy
Is she “withholding sex” or just taking good care of herself?
Dear Dr. Jane, I love my boyfriend but we have problems in the bedroom. We met in college and have lived together since graduation in 2020. We love each other and get along great. The problem is that when we fight, I don’t feel like having sex. Every time this happens, he accuses me of […]
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Understanding Intimacy: Hopeful Husband on Valentine’s Day
How to create the perfect Valentine’s Day date
Dear Dr. Jane, I love my wife. She’s amazing. Our love life is pretty good, but I’m really bad at showing her how much I love her on Valentine’s Day. The other day, I heard her talking to her best friend about it. She was putting me down a little bit. This Valentine’s Day, I […]
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Understanding Intimacy: Rejected in Bed
When the woman wants more in the bedroom
I am in a loving relationship with my boyfriend of six years. We’re both mid-30s, in good shape and successful. Everything’s perfect except for sex. At the beginning, the sex was great, but it’s completely off now. I want it, but he’s just not interested. He’s under a lot of stress, but the lack of […]
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Understanding Intimacy: Hungry for Love
What to do if you and your partner aren’t on the same intimacy page
I’ve been married to my best friend for 15 years. We get along very well in every area of our lives except in the bedroom. Honestly, she’s like a pal who I see walking around the house in skimpy PJs but who never touches me. I don’t touch her anymore either because I’ve been rejected […]
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Understanding Intimacy: Losing Hope
Is therapy very effective at reducing or removing anxiety surrounding intimacy?
Is therapy very effective at reducing or removing anxiety surrounding intimacy? My wife and I have had decreasing intimacy over the past decade, with traditional therapy not improving the situation, and therapy with an AASECT certified therapist for about seven months not showing much improvement. As things continue to deteriorate, I’m losing hope that therapy […]
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Understanding Intimacy
Ghosted in Bend
Dear Dr. Jane, I’m a 39-year-old single woman. I have a great job, a nice place and a really cute dog. Overall, I’m happy. The problem’s been dating. The men my age don’t usually have the maturity I’m looking for and most older men seem incredibly entitled. A while back, I connected with a mid-50s […]
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Understanding Intimacy
September Blues
Dear Dr. Jane, I’ve been married for seven years and we have two little kids. They’ve been back to school for a week now. The kids seem excited about school. They like their new teachers and they like hanging out with friends. I know my wife likes everyone getting into a solid routine again. I’m […]
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Understanding Intimacy
Feeling hot —
but not in a good way
Dear Dr. Jane, I’m in love with my wife. We have a pretty good relationship and we both like sex, but intimacy’s been difficult this summer. We’ve only had sex once since the kids got back from camp. There’s always something in the way. It seems like they never sleep, or if they do sleep, […]