Heart Of Barkness My friend recently bought a $3,000 labradoodle but refuses to pay to get it trained. The dog is really badly behaved. Whenever I bring up the need for training, my friend gets very defensive and lashes out at me. Last time I visited her, the dog got into my bag and chewed […]
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Whim Chill Factor & Full Meddle Jackie
Men can experience a sort of temporary amnesia in the moment
A guy I know through mutual friends finally asked for my number, claiming he’d like to see more of me. I was elated, but he never called. After a month, I gave up hope, feeling puzzled and, honestly, kind of hurt. Why do men get your number if they’re never going to call or text? […]
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Advice Goddess: Burden of “Poof”
We crave certainty, and we get freaked out by uncertainty
Out of the blue, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me. Not long afterward, I saw pix on Facebook of him with some other girl. It’s been two months since our breakup, and he wants to reconcile, so whatever he got into obviously tanked. We were planning on moving in together in the […]
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Advice Goddess: Guess Pains
Freak breakups rattle the mind
I got dumped four months ago, and I’m still not sure what happened. All of my boyfriend’s explanations seemed vague, and the breakup really came out of nowhere. I don’t want to contact him. How do I sort this out so I can move on? — Desperately Seeking Closure Science has yet to figure out […]
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Advice Goddess: Sleep Actually
Bringing the spark back into the bedroom and breaking things off fully
My husband and I have been married for eight years. We have a 5-year-old son, and we both work full time. We used to have these amazing crazy sex marathons, but now we’re too tired from our jobs and parenthood. We have sex about once a month, if that. I’m worried that this isn’t healthy […]
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Advice Goddess: Venus Envy
I’m a 30-something woman, tall and thin, whom friends describe as beautiful, People often assume things are handed to me on a silver platter. I’m financially independent, have a full-time job, own a home, car and dress modestly. What can I do to change their perceptions? —Not Just Skin Deep Sadly, complaints about the difficulty […]
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Advice: Romancing The Grindstone
How to have a relationship when you’re chained (willingly) to your desk
Romancing The Grindstone I’m a 32-year-old woman with a really intense job that I love. I work long hours and I often work weekends, too — by choice. I don’t want kids, but I’d love to have a relationship. I just worry that guys will want more of me timewise and energywise than I can […]
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Advice Goddess: Pic Me!
Pic Me! I’m a newly divorced woman trying some online dating sites. Because I read your column, I understand how men prioritize beauty. I’m an attractive woman, but I often photograph terribly, and I’m thinking of spending some money and having a professional photographer shoot some pix in a studio. Would this be a good […]
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Advice Goddess: Wipe That Green Off Your Face
I’m a very envious person, though I don’t act on it (meaning I don’t try to mess things up for people who are doing well). Where does envy stem from? How can I get rid of it? —Begrudging Woman You see a friend achieving some success and you say, “So happy for you. Well-deserved!”— which […]
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Science Advice Goddess: Speaking Ill Of The Dud
Speaking Ill Of The Dud I have a close friend whose relationships always end badly. The new guy she’s dating has a reputation as a user. My friend’s very successful, and I believe he’s dating her for her business contacts. I need to be honest with her about this. How should I do that — […]