I’m a married gay woman. Whenever I ask my wife to discuss some problem in our relationship, she’ll say, “Can we talk about this tomorrow” (or “later”)? Of course, there’s never a “tomorrow.” I end up feeling resentful, and this makes even a minor issue turn into a big deal. Help. —Postponed Putting things off […]
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Haunting Accident
Dreams may have no importance in guiding our lives
What do dreams mean? I was dumped 10 months ago. I couldn’t stop thinking about him. Now I barely do, but last night, I dreamed I broke in to his apartment, found him in bed with this gorgeous girl, and punched her in the face. Does this mean I’m not over him? —Wanna Start Dating […]
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Dr. Strangerlove Champagne and Suffering
Hookup sex doesn’t necessarily mean satisfaction
I’m a 33-year-old woman. Though I don’t want a boyfriend right now, I have a strong sex drive and don’t want to go without sex. I’ve tried the hookup apps, but besides finding sleeping with strangers sexually unsatisfying, I’m always a little surprised at how emotionally empty I end up feeling. (It’s not like I […]
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Mixed Emojis; Kinking Outside The Box
Advice for dating in the digital age and keeping it spicy in the bedroom
I’m dating again now and annoyed by how texting’s become the way you get to know somebody you might want to go out with. I type all day at work. I’ll talk on the phone, but the last thing I want to do when I’m off is type text messages. — Contrary Millennial Woman Back […]
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Totally Flawsome
It’s a spot on your face, not the Mark of Satan or a button with a message underneath
I‘m a single 33-year-old woman. Suddenly, after years of outdoor sports, I have a dime-sized dark brown sunspot on my face. It’s not cancerous, and I’m having it lasered off. This will take a while. Though I cover it with makeup, I’m terribly self-conscious about it, and I don’t want to date till it’s removed. […]
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Advice Goddess: Burden of “Poof”
We crave certainty, and we get freaked out by uncertainty
Out of the blue, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me. Not long afterward, I saw pix on Facebook of him with some other girl. It’s been two months since our breakup, and he wants to reconcile, so whatever he got into obviously tanked. We were planning on moving in together in the […]
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Advice Goddess: Guess Pains
Freak breakups rattle the mind
I got dumped four months ago, and I’m still not sure what happened. All of my boyfriend’s explanations seemed vague, and the breakup really came out of nowhere. I don’t want to contact him. How do I sort this out so I can move on? — Desperately Seeking Closure Science has yet to figure out […]
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Advice Goddess: Sleep Actually
Bringing the spark back into the bedroom and breaking things off fully
My husband and I have been married for eight years. We have a 5-year-old son, and we both work full time. We used to have these amazing crazy sex marathons, but now we’re too tired from our jobs and parenthood. We have sex about once a month, if that. I’m worried that this isn’t healthy […]
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Advice Goddess: Venus Envy
I’m a 30-something woman, tall and thin, whom friends describe as beautiful, People often assume things are handed to me on a silver platter. I’m financially independent, have a full-time job, own a home, car and dress modestly. What can I do to change their perceptions? —Not Just Skin Deep Sadly, complaints about the difficulty […]
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Advice Goddess: Alice In Wanderland
I follow you on Twitter, and I was disgusted to see your tweet about marriage, “No, humans aren’t naturally monogamous — which is why people say relationships ‘take work,’ while you never hear anybody talking about what a coal mine an affair can be.” If a person finds fidelity so challenging, they should stay single. […]