Dear Dr. Jane, I‘m a man who’s been married to a wonderful woman for over 10 years. We have a healthy sex life, but I’ve noticed that my wife isn’t very passionate when we make love. It seems like she wants me to hurry up and finish. This makes me think that she doesn’t really […]
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Understanding Intimacy: Sex After Baby
Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I had a baby girl four months ago and our sex life has been off track ever since. I know it takes time for a woman to feel good postpartum, but our doctor said we could have sex after six weeks. We’ve only had sex once and it was terrible. I’m […]
Understanding Intimacy: Trying to Help
Dear Dr. Jane, My wife has some severe hangups about touching herself, me touching her, and generally anything that isn’t traditional intercourse. Unsurprisingly, she’s never had an orgasm. We talked about it one night last week in our tent when we were camping at Elk Lake. For the first time in our relationship, she told […]
Understanding Intimacy: Frustrated in Redmond
We’ve been married for over 10 years and we’re best friends. But these days, I can’t get my partner to give me any touch at all. Dear Dr. Jane, My relationship has been hanging by a thread for quite a while now, but these days I’m almost ready to call it quits. We’ve been married for […]
Gotta Talk in Bend
Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I have had problems with intimacy for years. The last time we had sex was early in 2021. I know that we need to have “The Talk” but I have no idea how to bring up the topic of intimacy without making things even more awkward between us. I […]
Understanding Intimacy: Should We Open Our Marriage?
Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I have had problems with intimacy for years. At this point, we’re pretty much sexless. I think the last time we made love was before Thanksgiving. What do you think about us opening our marriage to fix the sex problem? She really doesn’t want anything to do with me sexually, […]
Understanding Intimacy: Stuck without Sex
Editor’s note: This is the second in a new monthly column from Dr. Jane Guyn, inviting locals to ask questions about intimacy and sex. Look for the column the second week of each month. Dear Dr. Jane, How would you approach the matter of a couple who have gone an extended period without sex, and […]
Understanding Intimacy
Editor’s note: This week, as couples nationwide approach this love-centered holiday called Valentine’s Day, we’re rolling out a new column, “Understanding Intimacy,” from Dr. Jane Guyn, which will run monthly in the Source Weekly. The first edition of her column is below. Dr. Jane Guyn (she/her) is a well-known relationship coach who received her Ph.D. […]

