How do you handle a problem with sexual intimacy when it’s related to sexual trauma? My partner had some memories of very bad events come back to him a few years ago — the events themselves occurred in his late teens. He’s in his mid 40s now and won’t see a therapist (even the one […]
Dear Dr. Jane, I’m in my second marriage and our relationship is amazing. Our sex life is very healthy. Here’s the problem: in my previous marriage, we had a dead bedroom. We had sex only once or twice a year for many years. It was incredibly difficult for me because I’m someone who feels most […]
I hear a lot of people talk about getting back to the way things were in the past — passionate and sexy. But, what if there isn’t necessarily something to get “back” to because it wasn’t there in the first place? Can a marriage last if everything else is fantastic, but has no sexual chemistry? Or […]
Dear Dr. Jane, I’m married to a wonderful person who uses the pronouns they/them. Our sex life is pretty good. Even though we only do it every few weeks, we both experience pleasure. When we’re done, we wonder why we don’t do it more. My problem is that they never initiate. A few days later, […]
Dear Dr Jane, I’ve been married to my wife for over 10 years. In many ways, we have a healthy sex life. We do it twice a week and she’s pretty open when I ask. Even though we do a lot, I’m bored. It’s the New Year and I want to make changes. We only […]
Dear Dr. Jane, I don’t know about other people, but this year has been very challenging for me and my partner. Now it’s the holidays and we’re both stressed out. Making love is the last thing on our LONG list of things to do, but I don’t want us to get to 2023 and feel […]
Dear Dr. Jane, I‘m a man who’s been married to a wonderful woman for over 10 years. We have a healthy sex life, but I’ve noticed that my wife isn’t very passionate when we make love. It seems like she wants me to hurry up and finish. This makes me think that she doesn’t really […]
Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I had a baby girl four months ago and our sex life has been off track ever since. I know it takes time for a woman to feel good postpartum, but our doctor said we could have sex after six weeks. We’ve only had sex once and it was terrible. I’m […]
Dear Dr. Jane, My wife has some severe hangups about touching herself, me touching her, and generally anything that isn’t traditional intercourse. Unsurprisingly, she’s never had an orgasm. We talked about it one night last week in our tent when we were camping at Elk Lake. For the first time in our relationship, she told […]
We’ve been married for over 10 years and we’re best friends. But these days, I can’t get my partner to give me any touch at all. Dear Dr. Jane, My relationship has been hanging by a thread for quite a while now, but these days I’m almost ready to call it quits. We’ve been married for […]
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