Dr. Jane Guyn, Author at The Source - Bend, Oregon

Understanding Intimacy: Freaked Out

I know that my current wife loves me and enjoys sex, but I get really freaked out when we’re having a dry spell

by Dr. Jane Guyn April 12, 2023July 18, 2023

Dear Dr. Jane, I’m in my second marriage and our relationship is amazing. Our sex life is very healthy. Here’s the problem: in my previous marriage, we had a dead bedroom. We had sex only once or twice a year for many years. It was incredibly difficult for me because I’m someone who feels most […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Not Feeling It

Can a marriage last if everything else is fantastic, but has no sexual chemistry?

by Dr. Jane Guyn March 8, 2023June 29, 2024

I hear a lot of people talk about getting back to the way things were in the past — passionate and sexy. But, what if there isn’t necessarily something to get “back” to because it wasn’t there in the first place? Can a marriage last if everything else is fantastic, but has no sexual chemistry? Or […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Waiting for the Invitation

I wish my partner would show me that they want me. How can we fix it?

by Dr. Jane Guyn February 8, 2023March 20, 2024

Dear Dr. Jane, I’m married to a wonderful person who uses the pronouns they/them. Our sex life is pretty good. Even though we only do it every few weeks, we both experience pleasure. When we’re done, we wonder why we don’t do it more. My problem is that they never initiate. A few days later, […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Feeling Kinky in 2023

It's the New Year and I want to make changes.

by Dr. Jane Guyn January 11, 2023July 28, 2024

Dear Dr Jane, I’ve been married to my wife for over 10 years. In many ways, we have a healthy sex life. We do it twice a week and she’s pretty open when I ask. Even though we do a lot, I’m bored. It’s the New Year and I want to make changes. We only […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Holiday Blahs

A column that fosters deeper love between couples

by Dr. Jane Guyn December 7, 2022December 20, 2023

Dear Dr. Jane, I don’t know about other people, but this year has been very challenging for me and my partner. Now it’s the holidays and we’re both stressed out. Making love is the last thing on our LONG list of things to do, but I don’t want us to get to 2023 and feel […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Bad in Bed

A column that fosters deeper love between couples

by Dr. Jane Guyn November 9, 2022July 8, 2025

Dear Dr. Jane, I‘m a man who’s been married to a wonderful woman for over 10 years. We have a healthy sex life, but I’ve noticed that my wife isn’t very passionate when we make love. It seems like she wants me to hurry up and finish. This makes me think that she doesn’t really […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Sex After Baby

A column that fosters deeper love between couples

by Dr. Jane Guyn October 12, 2022August 9, 2024

Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I had a baby girl four months ago and our sex life has been off track ever since. I know it takes time for a woman to feel good postpartum, but our doctor said we could have sex after six weeks. We’ve only had sex once and it was terrible. I’m […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Trying to Help

by Dr. Jane Guyn September 7, 2022November 8, 2023

Dear Dr. Jane, My wife has some severe hangups about touching herself, me touching her, and generally anything that isn’t traditional intercourse. Unsurprisingly, she’s never had an orgasm. We talked about it one night last week in our tent when we were camping at Elk Lake. For the first time in our relationship, she told […]

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Understanding Intimacy: Frustrated in Redmond

by Dr. Jane Guyn August 10, 2022November 16, 2024

We’ve been married for over 10 years and we’re best friends. But these days, I can’t get my partner to give me any touch at all. Dear Dr. Jane, My relationship has been hanging by a thread for quite a while now, but these days I’m almost ready to call it quits. We’ve been married for […]

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Gotta Talk in Bend

Bringing up “the talk,” but not knowing how to do it

by Dr. Jane Guyn July 13, 2022November 16, 2024

Dear Dr. Jane, My wife and I have had problems with intimacy for years. The last time we had sex was early in 2021. I know that we need to have “The Talk” but I have no idea how to bring up the topic of intimacy without making things even more awkward between us. I […]

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