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I am in a loving relationship with my boyfriend of six years. We’re both mid-30s, in good shape and successful. Everything’s perfect except for sex. At the beginning, the sex was great, but it’s completely off now. I want it, but he’s just not interested. He’s under a lot of stress, but the lack of […]

This message has a few moderately graphic parts. Still, I think you should continue reading. A few days ago, after my always soul-touching men’s group wound down, I decided to go to the gym before meeting with my next client. I shall be forever appreciative for that decision. Wendy and I usually work out after […]

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You’re the most pragmatic sign of the zodiac and are most highly skilled at getting constructive things done. It’s also true that you thrive on organizing the chaotic details of our messy world into smooth-functioning systems. But I periodically need to remind you that these superpowers of yours require you to […]

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Since 1985, musician David Gilmour has led Pink Floyd. The band has sold over 250 million records. He’s in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in both the UK and the US. But my favorite thing about Gilmour is that he’s a passionate activist who has crusaded for animal rights, […]

No sooner is holiday buying over, no sooner are living rooms out from under the jolly chaos of ribbons and wrapping paper, than we’re headed back to the malls and downtown shops with returns. Gift givers, I feel your pain. I know the ouch factor when you’ve spent hours agonizing over the perfect present, only […]

One of our most fundamental connections to life is the assimilation of oxygen from the air we breathe into every tissue in our bodies. Without oxygen, and its ability to spark our body’s life-giving process of creating cellular energy, we could not survive. For centuries, physicians have used oxygen in a healing capacity, and at […]

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): What is the perfect gift I could offer you this holiday season? I have decided on a large square black box with nothing inside. There would be a gold ribbon around it bearing the words, “The Fruitful Treasure of Pregnant Emptiness.” With this mysterious blessing, I would be fondly urging you […]

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): I don’t recommend burning wood to heat your home. Such fires generate noxious emissions harmful to human health. But hypothetically speaking, if you had no other way to get warm, I prefer burning ash and beech wood rather than, say, pine and cedar. The former two trees yield far more heat […]

I’ve been married to my best friend for 15 years. We get along very well in every area of our lives except in the bedroom. Honestly, she’s like a pal who I see walking around the house in skimpy PJs but who never touches me. I don’t touch her anymore either because I’ve been rejected […]

I‘ve been blessed over my career as a counselor, life coach, leadership trainer and team builder to have been able to work with many high-level athletes, both at the collegiate and professional levels. Many are long-distance runners. Flagstaff, Arizona, where I lived for 50 years, is often considered to be the running capital of the […]