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A Brief History of Tame and Darth Vaper

Reputation is essentially our social report card—other’s evaluation of the sort of person we are

Amy AlkonApril 18, 2018January 22, 2024

I’m a 45-year-old single guy seeking a long-term relationship. My problem is that when I’m interacting with a woman I’m attracted to, my ability to read whether she’s interested in me goes out the window. I suspect I’ve missed out on some great women because I couldn’t read their signals quickly enough. —Disappointed Where you […]

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Satin Worshipper/Wall of Me

Our emotions are our first responders, and those still driving us today are often a mismatch with our modern world.

Amy AlkonMarch 28, 2018August 16, 2023

My parents said they’d give my fiance and me money for a wedding or for a down payment on a home. They aren’t wealthy, so my fiance and I would have to fund about half of the wedding, or possibly more. He doesn’t care about a big wedding, and I agree that it would be […]

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Flee-Bitten and Shudder Speed

When a guy just cuts you off like a tree limb, it’s tempting to come up with ego-cushioning explanations

Amy AlkonMarch 21, 2018December 3, 2023

For three months, things were going really well with this man I was dating. He’d introduced me to his daughter. We’d even planned a trip together. And then he just disappeared. I eventually texted him to find out what happened, but he simply texted back, “Really busy, all good.” This isn’t the first time this […]

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Remaining Chased Pedal To The Settle

After you’ve had your heart broken, it’s tempting to opt for romantic safety

Amy AlkonMarch 14, 2018August 16, 2023

I have a history of terrible relationships that end in awful heartbreak. The advice I keep getting is to date down — get together with a man who is less attractive than I am and who likes me a little more than I like him. I was kind of into the idea of equality on […]

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Whim Chill Factor & Full Meddle Jackie

Men can experience a sort of temporary amnesia in the moment

Amy AlkonMarch 8, 2018August 16, 2023

A guy I know through mutual friends finally asked for my number, claiming he’d like to see more of me. I was elated, but he never called. After a month, I gave up hope, feeling puzzled and, honestly, kind of hurt. Why do men get your number if they’re never going to call or text? […]

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Waity Issues and Crime Of Compassion

Putting things off won’t help

Amy AlkonFebruary 28, 2018August 16, 2023

I’m a married gay woman. Whenever I ask my wife to discuss some problem in our relationship, she’ll say, “Can we talk about this tomorrow” (or “later”)? Of course, there’s never a “tomorrow.” I end up feeling resentful, and this makes even a minor issue turn into a big deal. Help. —Postponed Putting things off […]

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Haunting Accident

Dreams may have no importance in guiding our lives

Amy AlkonFebruary 21, 2018August 16, 2023

What do dreams mean? I was dumped 10 months ago. I couldn’t stop thinking about him. Now I barely do, but last night, I dreamed I broke in to his apartment, found him in bed with this gorgeous girl, and punched her in the face. Does this mean I’m not over him? —Wanna Start Dating […]

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Dr. Strangerlove Champagne and Suffering

Hookup sex doesn’t necessarily mean satisfaction

Amy AlkonFebruary 14, 2018August 16, 2023

I’m a 33-year-old woman. Though I don’t want a boyfriend right now, I have a strong sex drive and don’t want to go without sex. I’ve tried the hookup apps, but besides finding sleeping with strangers sexually unsatisfying, I’m always a little surprised at how emotionally empty I end up feeling. (It’s not like I […]

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Mixed Emojis; Kinking Outside The Box

Advice for dating in the digital age and keeping it spicy in the bedroom

Amy AlkonFebruary 8, 2018August 16, 2023

I’m dating again now and annoyed by how texting’s become the way you get to know somebody you might want to go out with. I type all day at work. I’ll talk on the phone, but the last thing I want to do when I’m off is type text messages. — Contrary Millennial Woman Back […]

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Totally Flawsome

It’s a spot on your face, not the Mark of Satan or a button with a message underneath

Amy AlkonFebruary 1, 2018August 16, 2023

I‘m a single 33-year-old woman. Suddenly, after years of outdoor sports, I have a dime-sized dark brown sunspot on my face. It’s not cancerous, and I’m having it lasered off. This will take a while. Though I cover it with makeup, I’m terribly self-conscious about it, and I don’t want to date till it’s removed. […]

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