I got dumped four months ago, and I’m still not sure what happened. All of my boyfriend’s explanations seemed vague, and the breakup really came out of nowhere. I don’t want to contact him. How do I sort this out so I can move on? — Desperately Seeking Closure Science has yet to figure out […]
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Advice Goddess: Sleep Actually
Bringing the spark back into the bedroom and breaking things off fully
My husband and I have been married for eight years. We have a 5-year-old son, and we both work full time. We used to have these amazing crazy sex marathons, but now we’re too tired from our jobs and parenthood. We have sex about once a month, if that. I’m worried that this isn’t healthy […]
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Advice Goddess: Venus Envy
I’m a 30-something woman, tall and thin, whom friends describe as beautiful, People often assume things are handed to me on a silver platter. I’m financially independent, have a full-time job, own a home, car and dress modestly. What can I do to change their perceptions? —Not Just Skin Deep Sadly, complaints about the difficulty […]
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Advice Goddess: Alice In Wanderland
I follow you on Twitter, and I was disgusted to see your tweet about marriage, “No, humans aren’t naturally monogamous — which is why people say relationships ‘take work,’ while you never hear anybody talking about what a coal mine an affair can be.” If a person finds fidelity so challenging, they should stay single. […]
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Advice Goddess: Nose To The Groin Stone
Making sure you’re clear about that “friend zone.”
Nose To The Groin Stone I’m a woman, and I recently made a new professional connection — a man who’s excited about my work. We’re planning on doing a big important project together. I’m worried that he’s interested in me romantically (based on a few things he’s said). I’m not interested in him in that […]
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Advice Goddess: Destiny’s Problem Child | Missed Connections
Is “Love at first sight” a real thing? And what happens if you miss your connection?
I saw this gorgeous girl at the coffeehouse at the mall two months ago. It was totally love at first sight. I keep hanging out there hoping to see her again. Am I nuts, or does love at first sight really exist? — Smitten It’s so special when a man tells a woman he’s deeply […]
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Choosing A Place To Watch An Eclipse
The Dark Side Of The Moon……and how to find it!
The T shirts, fridge magnets and solar glasses are all ready to go, but are you? It’s 10:15 am on the coast of Oregon, and the moon’s shadow races across the Pacific. “The Great American Solar Eclipse” has begun its journey across the Continental U.S.A., leaving in its path a bit of history and a […]
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Dr. Joyce Benenson: How the evolution of male warriors/female worriers drives us
Welcome to Amy Alkon’s HumanLab: The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science. This week’s show explains why advice to “lean in” is totally unrealistic and other ways evolved male/female sex differences shape who we are. My guest this week is psychology professor Dr. Joyce Benenson, discussing her fantastic new book, “Warriors […]
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Sexual Confidence for Women with Dr. Beth Montemurro
Welcome to Amy Alkon’s HumanLab: The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science. Tonight’s show is about women and sexual power — why some women feel like passive participants in their sex lives and why and how other women are able to feel comfortable in their sexual skin. My guest […]
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Sex Therapist Dr. Marty Klein on How to Rethink Your Way to Great Sex
Welcome to Amy Alkon’s HumanLab: The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science and the therapy world. It turns out that our assumptions about the mindblowing sex we think we are “supposed” to be having is the thing that stops us from the pretty great sex we could be having. […]