Eat, Gray, Love I am almost 50 but look much younger, and I’m noticing that a number of the guys who are pursuing me are in their early 30s. I’m flattered but not really interested, as I want to get married again and I’m thinking that these guys are too young to consider that and […]
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America’s Next Top Model
America’s Next Top Model I’m seeing so many women on Instagram who’ve had themselves made over to be super hot through cosmetic surgery and injectable fillers. They all have the same face—with big, luscious lips and huge doll-like eyes. In every shot, they’re in full makeup—crazy eyeliner, tons of contouring. Do guys actually like this […]
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Care Bare and Wondering Dude
Care Bare I’m dating this new woman. I like her a lot, but she keeps complaining that I still have pictures of my ex-girlfriend on my wall, saying that it makes her uncomfortable, especially when we’re having sex. I was with my ex for a while, and we lived together. They’re just pictures. What’s the […]
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Areola 51 and A Czar Is Born
Areola 51 A lot of women are posting pix of themselves on Instagram in very skimpy attire. I don’t feel comfortable doing that (though I’m in great shape), because I’m single and I’m afraid men would think I’m “easy.” Am I right in thinking men don’t take you seriously as relationship material if you post […]
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Cling Kong
My girlfriend of three years recently took a trip home for a weekend wedding. Before she left, I asked her, “Can you set my expectations as to how often I’ll hear from you?” She said she’d call every day. She called each of the three days but never stayed on the phone very long, always […]
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Gramping Her Style and Debt Valley
Gramping Her Style My friend just joined a dating site for elite creative professionals. Unfortunately, it grabs your age from Facebook, so you can’t shave off years. At 50, she’s outside of most men’s search parameters—even older men’s. What gives? —Concerned Aging is especially unkind to straight women on dating sites. At a certain point (usually […]
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Foul Pay and Keeping It Rio
Foul Pay I went out with a feminist who was all into women’s empowerment, but when the bill came, she made no effort to chip in. Please explain this type of feminism. Is it somehow possible that she didn’t notice the check? —Incredulous It is possible that she didn’t notice the check. It’s also possible […]
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Fifty Shades of Go Away and Remorse Code
Fifty Shades of Go Away I’m the female author of a funny memoir about sex addiction and relationships. Unfortunately, I now have male readers asking me on dates via email, even if they don’t live in this country! To put it politely, few are men I’d ever be interested in. Also, it feels creepy to […]
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Things That Go Bump In The Knight and Girls Just Wanna Have Funding?
I’m confused. Does treating women as equals mean not doing those things that would previously have been considered chivalrous, like opening doors and giving a woman your coat? What’s now considered polite, and what’s considered offensive? —Bewildered The response by some women these days to men’s well-intentioned acts must tempt at least a few men […]
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The Hand That Rocks The Ladle and From Adhere to Eternity
I’m a 57-year-old twice-divorced man. Though I never wanted to get to a point where romance wouldn’t be in my big picture, I’m feeling done with it. I’ve replaced dating and getting married again with gourmet cooking for one. I’m really enjoying it, but it worries me. Is it okay to be done? —Single And […]